I feel like there is so much hope in the world for any kind of family. Whenever a divorce happens and children are involved, it is a really difficult transition. I have learned this week some important principles to make part families get along better. One of the main principles that I found was interesting was that the biological parent should always do the heavy parenting. I never realized the importance of this until we had a conversation in class this week. When the step parent interacts with a child or teenager and tries to give them a consequence of parent them, the child feels like the step parent is not their parent and starts to hold grudges and dislikes the step parent. Another principle that I learned this week that I found insightful was that the step parent should be the kind of role model the child's great aunt would be. Possibly the step parent should have fun with the child and do activities together that would build the relationship between the step parent and the child. It is known that the amount of time that it takes a part family to adjust and get used to there being different members of family tied together with certain members of another family about two years. Why might it take this time to adjust? Simply because it allows the family to go through cycles together. This allows the family to go through holidays and birthdays together. It also allows the children time to understand the transition and gives them time to transition to a new life. I think this information is really key to finding success in part families. It is all about the focus on the relationship. If you want to have a strong unit, it is important to focus on the relationships. If you focus on the relationship, there will be greater happiness in the family life.
Saturday, April 1, 2017
Split Family or Step Family
I feel like there is so much hope in the world for any kind of family. Whenever a divorce happens and children are involved, it is a really difficult transition. I have learned this week some important principles to make part families get along better. One of the main principles that I found was interesting was that the biological parent should always do the heavy parenting. I never realized the importance of this until we had a conversation in class this week. When the step parent interacts with a child or teenager and tries to give them a consequence of parent them, the child feels like the step parent is not their parent and starts to hold grudges and dislikes the step parent. Another principle that I learned this week that I found insightful was that the step parent should be the kind of role model the child's great aunt would be. Possibly the step parent should have fun with the child and do activities together that would build the relationship between the step parent and the child. It is known that the amount of time that it takes a part family to adjust and get used to there being different members of family tied together with certain members of another family about two years. Why might it take this time to adjust? Simply because it allows the family to go through cycles together. This allows the family to go through holidays and birthdays together. It also allows the children time to understand the transition and gives them time to transition to a new life. I think this information is really key to finding success in part families. It is all about the focus on the relationship. If you want to have a strong unit, it is important to focus on the relationships. If you focus on the relationship, there will be greater happiness in the family life.
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